Assalamualaikum!
After Several hours of fixing my template, I've settled for this! :D
Anyways, as i was browsing through igotitcovered.org one post caught my attention and mashallah! it was a beautiful piece! lets just say we humans are weak and it's a fact and at some point of our lives we give in to our desires and subahanallah this dunia is full of it, yes? for those who have not realized, let me give you an example. just a simple one: relationships. Allah created man to desire and vice versa but as we all know there is no such thing as "dating" in Islam and why is that? ok, 1st of all we are well aware that women/men are not allowed to be alone with a non-mahram. well that includes your boyfriend/girlfriend, agree? and again you might ask, why not? it's not like anything is going to happen. ahuh that's what shaytan wants you to think, shaytan is always with us. when it comes to disguising sins, shaytan does it best.
Being alone with your boyfriend/girlfriend is already a sin. what about holding hands, cuddling, kissing??...and all these things will lead to zina and some of you might say..."apani ni eh sitaie, inda jua kan sampai cematu, tau jua ku tu haraam kaliah" ok then BUT what about holding hands for those who are in a relationship? how about being alone in the car, sending her home after dinner? BEING ALONE WITH A NON-MAHRAM IS ALREADY CONSIDERED TO BE A SIN. This is the work of syahtan, he makes every sins seemed harmless. THIS is the kind of desires humans possessed (of course there are other desires, this is just one example) don't worry it's natural for us to have these feelings, our creator made us this way BUT desires can only be fulfilled when you're married :)
tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) that is purer for them, verily Allah is All-aware of what they do (an-Nur 24:30)
When you see a picture on facebook a couple holding hands or hugging, you might think "awww sweet jua boyfriendnya atu!" oh snap! another work of shaytan! soo be careful~ think of it this way.....what is so sweet about disobeying the almighty? :/
since I have very limited vocab and I don't seem to express myself very well. lol :p here are the wise words of "the aunties" from dearlittleaunties.blogspot.com :
- shaytaan never tells someone to go and 'commit zina'. he knows nobody would do that. he starts small, instead. real small. like with a luagh, a certain smile...
- or a chat. when we unnecessarily chat with a person from the other gender, we slowly erase the barrier between us and the person, including even the hijab barrier.
- the reality is that most "relationships" don't begin as relationships from day 1. they start off as "friendship" grow into "it's complicated" and finally into "relationships" and sometimes x-relationships.
check out their blog, it's really inspiring :) so yezz, the wise words of the aunties~ convincing eyh?
and oh here's the article I was talking about!!!
but perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you and Allah knows, while you know not (2:216)
the messenger of Allaah (Sallah Allahoo Alyhee Wa Salam) said; " O Ali, do not follow a glance with another, for you will be forgiven for the first, but not for the second." (reported by al-tirmidhi 2701; see saheeh al-jaami',7953)
